It can feel overwhelming to start recording your family history because it can be hard to know where to start. Which questions do you ask? Are all memories from all family members, just as precious and important? And then what do you do with family members who may not openly share stories as often? Maybe your father is quiet, stoic, and full of wisdom just waiting to be uncovered. Here are 35 questions to ask your father to get him talking and recording his story for your family and the generations to come.
Early Childhood and Adulthood Memories
- What are your earliest childhood memories?
- Can you share any memorable stories about your parents or grandparents?
- How would you describe your relationship with your siblings growing up?
- What was your favorite subject in school and why?
- Did you have any favorite hobbies or activities as a child?
- What was your first job, and what did you enjoy or dislike about it?
- Did you have any role models or people who greatly influenced your life?
- Were there any significant challenges or obstacles you faced in your life, and how did you overcome them?
- Is there anything else you would like to share about your life that I haven't asked about?
Marriage and Family Memories
- How did you meet Mom, and what attracted you to her?
- What was the most memorable moment from your wedding day?
- How did you choose our names, and what was the significance behind them?
- Can you share any funny or heartwarming stories about raising me?
- What were your proudest moments as a parent?
- How did you balance your career and family life?
- What values did you hope to instill in me as I grew up?
- What are some of your most cherished memories from family vacations or trips?
- What are your favorite traditions or rituals that we have as a family?
Life Wisdom and Lessons Learned
- How has your perspective on life changed over the years?
- What are some of the most valuable life lessons you've learned?
- Can you share any stories of historical events you witnessed or lived through?
- Are there any particular accomplishments or achievements that you are proud of?
- What are your passions or hobbies now, and how have they evolved over time?
- How do you define success in life?
- What are your hopes and dreams for the future?
- What advice would you give to your younger self if you had the chance?
- Are there any regrets or things you wish you had done differently in life?
- How would you like to be remembered by future generations?
- Are there any family stories or historical events that you think are important to pass down?
- What are some of the most significant changes you've witnessed in the world during your lifetime?
- How have you navigated personal and professional relationships throughout your life?
- What are some of the most important values or principles that have guided you?
- Can you share any wisdom or life lessons that you learned from your own parents?
- How do you define happiness, and what brings you joy?
- What is one piece of advice you would give me as I navigate adulthood?
Our favorite thing about recording parent's stories is the wisdom, peace, and patience that pours out of them from many years and ups and downs. It's certainly stories you will treasure for years to come. We encourage you to gather them now while your parents are still here to impart them onto you.
